Pivot Point #7: Mental Merry-Go-RoundsNov 07, 2022
Too many people make a regular habit of jumping on their own mental, merry-go-round. They instinctively replay their missteps over and over again. Fixating on them only siphons their motivation to make better decisions in the future.
Over the course of my career as a therapist, the only productive outcome of beating ourselves up is increasing the size of our bicep. This is NOT to suggest we should blow off our mistakes or avoid accepting personal responsibility for them. Some measure of guilt may motivate us to perform at a higher level the next time around, but relentlessly beating ourselves up makes more productive outcomes less likely in the future.
Whenever a client engages in this practice, I offer them this support. "If beating yourself up helps you be a better parent, partner or colleague, please let me know. Since I always want to support you, I can text you daily reminders of how hopeless you are." To date, no one has taken me up on my offer. I invite you to contact me if you’d like my support as well (LOL)!
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