Through the Darkness and Into the LightOct 11, 2022
Hello everyone. As we enter the Fall Season and darkness descends on us earlier and earlier every day, I'm reminded of another favorite quote. It states:
"When one door closes, another one opens. It's THOSE dark hallways in between that scare us."
Some transitions are part of the natural life progression - like moving on from high school friends and enrolling in a distant college with its new and unfamiliar surroundings, voluntarily changing careers, or losing a significant amount of weight.
Others are NOT transitions of our choosing - as when a loved one dies, we unexpectedly lose our job or we're dumped by a significant other.
It's natural to experience some degree of self-doubt, anxiety, and even fear when we close out or begin a new chapter. But regardless of whether or not the changes are of our choosing, we can ALWAYS choose how we approach them.
Reflect on previous times when you successfully navigated turbulent waters and climbed OTHER mountains.
View transitions in their totality rather than getting stuck in any given snapshot in time.
How will our lives be better or at least returned to some semblance of normalcy once we get through it?
Focus on that goal while we take the steps to get to the other side.
Here's one example that illustrates my point:
Our oldest son, Michael Ben is approaching his 40th birthday. When he was a young toddler of about 15 months, my wife Shannon and I decided it was time to wean him off his bottle. Even for a toddler, he seemed unusually enamored with it.
He carried it with him EVERYWHERE. When he woke up one morning and it was nowhere to be found he screamed like a banshee for hours on end. Escaping the shrill intensity of his screams that permeated every aspect of our days for nearly a week, while simultaneously fighting our parental urge to comfort our little boy was very challenging.
Screaming, crying himself to sleep, waking up, and repeating the process all over again was HIS daily ritual and OUR private hell. In fact, it got so bad that Shannon would have cracked and given in to his screams had I not hidden the bottles from both of them.
Despite the emotional challenges we experienced during our transition from a bottle to a sippy cup, in the end, it all worked out for the better. Today Mike is a successful Elementary School Teacher, husband, and father.
I suspect it would have had a detrimental impact on his career and social life had he NOT transitioned from a bottle to a sippy cup and beyond.
So how will you embrace your transitions?
Will you allow yourself to be consumed with self-doubt and anxiety or embrace the new and exciting opportunities that await on the other side?
Remember, how you live your life is ALWAYS your choice.
I'd like to hear your thoughts on the matter and encourage you to learn more about my counseling
and coaching services.
Until then stay well and take care.
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